October 31st, 2009 at 2:20AM
Thanks to downsizing for the words of encouragement.  I don’t believe them yet but the mere fact another human reached out to me to encourage me sent me hope and as we know, hope is everything.  Without hope we die. I won’t be able to e-mail you, downsizing, for those tips you offered, but if you have time I would love to read them on your blog.  I really need to remain anonymous until I’m comfortable revealing who I really am. I welcome any tips from anyone on how to enjoy vegetables because I just have no desire for them at all right now.  I never have and therein lies most of the problem! downsizing: howdidyougetsofat: Why do I even try to begin to avoid these kinds of foods this time of year when it’s everywhere? To say I’m discouraged about my choices the past two days would be an understatement.  I am weak.  I am weaker than a stinking piece of candy.  I am weaker than a brownie.  I am weaker than a biscuit. That doesn’t do much for one’s self-esteem, does it? I am feeling pretty low and hopeless.  That’s what keeps me fat most of all — the hopelessness I feel.  The feeling that I’ll never get my act together, that I’ll never have the backbone to stand up to an M & M, that I’ll never be able to find the fortitude to lace up the shoes and move and burn more calories than I take in. There’s always and excuse not to do better.  And I hate that.  It’s a vicious cycle.  I hate myself for not being strong enough and because I’m hating myself I self-destruct. Sugar is my drug.  I admit it.  I am powerless over it. I have spoken. picture via www.babble.com I literally almost cried when I read this post. For several reasons. One, I cannot tell you how many nights I have had this EXACT same thought process. Two, it is a complete lie. And apologies to all my mom’s friends who read this blog, but it is complete bullshit. Three, I want to give this person a hug and can’t because duh, it’s the internet. Here’s the thing, I’m not big about re-blogging and sharing personal advice because I definitely don’t have it all figured out myself. But there was no email on this site, so I’m going to share my thoughts with the entire world readers of this blog. You are NOT weaker than candy or chocolate or even the best cupcake in the world. You are STRONGER than you think. If there’s anything I’ve learned in this, it’s that I am so much stronger than I ever thought possible. Changing your lifestyle is not about depriving yourself of everything good. I have a sweet tooth (especially that time of the month) and eating a piece of chocolate or having a free meal helps satisfy my craving and put it at bay for a while. It’s all about moderation. My mom always jokes that she hates the people who say that once they stopped eating chocolate/pizza/etc., eventually the cravings went away. That’s not true for everyone. But it’s about learning when to give in and when to resist. Your healthy life does not have to be whole grain, raw food all the time. My happy, healthy life includes things like nice dinners with my friends, occassional margaritas, dessert. But it also includes gym time, fruit, etc. If you’ll email me, I’d be happy to send some tips on things that satisfy my sweet tooth without going overboard, or have helped me love veggies. The fact that you’re ashamed to go home with your family is exactly how I used to feel. Not my family, but I spent the first 7 years after high school hiding from my hometown b/c I was so embarrassed of who I was. It really isn’t about what size you are, it’s about loving yourself and working to be the person you want to be. I’m still very overweight, but I’m much more content knowing I’m making myself into who I want to be instead of watching life from the sidelines. Once you start doing that, even if it’s just a pound lost, or one day a week exercising, you’ll notice the difference and be proud of yourself. Small steps with a long term vision are key. I used to set these ridiculous goals and then be so disappointed in myself when I didn’t lose 100 lbs in 3 months. There’s a wedding in a month, so I’d work out and eat healthy for one month, lose a few pounds, feel minorly good about myself, and then start all over the day after. Now I set mini goals which are attainable, with a long term goal to reach my goal weight by 2012. That way failing is not an option. That’s like .5 ounces a week. And if I reach my goal beforehand, even better! :) Always remember this, you are worth it. Every step you take, everything you overcome to get to who you want to be is worth it. YOu are worth the time it takes to save your own life. That’s been the hardest thing for me. Learn it early and it will change your life.

Thanks to downsizing for the words of encouragement.  I don’t believe them yet but the mere fact another human reached out to me to encourage me sent me hope and as we know, hope is everything.  Without hope we die.

I won’t be able to e-mail you, downsizing, for those tips you offered, but if you have time I would love to read them on your blog.  I really need to remain anonymous until I’m comfortable revealing who I really am.

I welcome any tips from anyone on how to enjoy vegetables because I just have no desire for them at all right now.  I never have and therein lies most of the problem!

downsizing:

howdidyougetsofat:

Why do I even try to begin to avoid these kinds of foods this time of year when it’s everywhere?

To say I’m discouraged about my choices the past two days would be an understatement.  I am weak.  I am weaker than a stinking piece of candy.  I am weaker than a brownie.  I am weaker than a biscuit.

That doesn’t do much for one’s self-esteem, does it?

I am feeling pretty low and hopeless.  That’s what keeps me fat most of all — the hopelessness I feel.  The feeling that I’ll never get my act together, that I’ll never have the backbone to stand up to an M & M, that I’ll never be able to find the fortitude to lace up the shoes and move and burn more calories than I take in.

There’s always and excuse not to do better.  And I hate that.  It’s a vicious cycle.  I hate myself for not being strong enough and because I’m hating myself I self-destruct.

Sugar is my drug.  I admit it.  I am powerless over it.

I have spoken.

picture via www.babble.com

I literally almost cried when I read this post. For several reasons.

  • One, I cannot tell you how many nights I have had this EXACT same thought process.
  • Two, it is a complete lie. And apologies to all my mom’s friends who read this blog, but it is complete bullshit.
  • Three, I want to give this person a hug and can’t because duh, it’s the internet.

Here’s the thing, I’m not big about re-blogging and sharing personal advice because I definitely don’t have it all figured out myself. But there was no email on this site, so I’m going to share my thoughts with the entire world readers of this blog.

  • You are NOT weaker than candy or chocolate or even the best cupcake in the world. You are STRONGER than you think. If there’s anything I’ve learned in this, it’s that I am so much stronger than I ever thought possible.
  • Changing your lifestyle is not about depriving yourself of everything good. I have a sweet tooth (especially that time of the month) and eating a piece of chocolate or having a free meal helps satisfy my craving and put it at bay for a while. It’s all about moderation. My mom always jokes that she hates the people who say that once they stopped eating chocolate/pizza/etc., eventually the cravings went away. That’s not true for everyone. But it’s about learning when to give in and when to resist.
  • Your healthy life does not have to be whole grain, raw food all the time. My happy, healthy life includes things like nice dinners with my friends, occassional margaritas, dessert. But it also includes gym time, fruit, etc. If you’ll email me, I’d be happy to send some tips on things that satisfy my sweet tooth without going overboard, or have helped me love veggies.
  • The fact that you’re ashamed to go home with your family is exactly how I used to feel. Not my family, but I spent the first 7 years after high school hiding from my hometown b/c I was so embarrassed of who I was. It really isn’t about what size you are, it’s about loving yourself and working to be the person you want to be. I’m still very overweight, but I’m much more content knowing I’m making myself into who I want to be instead of watching life from the sidelines. Once you start doing that, even if it’s just a pound lost, or one day a week exercising, you’ll notice the difference and be proud of yourself.
  • Small steps with a long term vision are key. I used to set these ridiculous goals and then be so disappointed in myself when I didn’t lose 100 lbs in 3 months. There’s a wedding in a month, so I’d work out and eat healthy for one month, lose a few pounds, feel minorly good about myself, and then start all over the day after. Now I set mini goals which are attainable, with a long term goal to reach my goal weight by 2012. That way failing is not an option. That’s like .5 ounces a week. And if I reach my goal beforehand, even better! :)
  • Always remember this, you are worth it. Every step you take, everything you overcome to get to who you want to be is worth it. YOu are worth the time it takes to save your own life. That’s been the hardest thing for me. Learn it early and it will change your life.
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